Dating with RA: Welcome to my nightmare

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Dating with RA: Welcome to my nightmare

by RA Dater

Dear Reader,

Welcoming to my online section on what it is like to date with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Who am I and how am I qualified to talk to you about this? Here is a little bit about me:

I was diagnosed while still married – now divorced, after 18 long years. Now – I am dating. It’s a challenge on more levels than I could possibly have imagined…

This blog is all about how we maintain sanity while enjoying the company of men. How do we broach the subject of RA, how do we let guys know we won’t be the girl that can get up and go fishing at 6 AM (like we would want to do that anyway)? And, of course.. how do we overcome our physical limitations when it comes to romance? Ask me a question – I will say I only have a Minor in Psych, but when it comes to men I am fairly confident I have an honorary Masters :)

Thank you for taking the time to learn a bit more about me. I hope you enjoy this section of and continue to follow my exploits through Confessions of a RA Dater. Being single isn’t easy. Having Rheumatoid Arthritis is defintely not easy. Together? It seems a tall mountain to climb but it is possible.




A RA Dater


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5 comments… add one

  • Kelly

    December 11, 2011, 7:16 pm

    I’m so glad you’re writing about this. Thank you!

  • genevy

    February 23, 2012, 8:54 pm

    its really kool to see someone like us writing about stuff like this most of the people i talk to on facebook are older im 21 i just started my life and i was diagnosed last year its kool to get any help at all lol thanks

  • Nicole

    February 28, 2012, 9:31 pm

    I was diagnosed with RA at age 23, and also divorced within the same year. I am nearly 26 now, my RA has sadly worsened, but I have recently been blessed with a very supportive and loving boyfriend. An offensive linebacker with a teddy bear personality, he shared with me that he wants to stay strong–even when he’s old–so he can always be ready to carry me through my toughest flares. There ARE guys out there willing to share the burden, and I hope women with RA never believe the lie that they are of less value just because of their disease.

  • Kelly

    March 23, 2012, 5:56 am

    I wish I could be so looky I have had guys that here auto immune disease that run for the hills which make u feel infectiuos like a lepa! I’m 26 nd pretty much ready 2 give up on dating nd romance full stop RA causes me physical pain nd I qyuite frankly can’t b bothered with emotion stress or pain, im a single mum nd at time I can b in agony my lil by
    Oy gets the best of me so I guess there’s nowt else left.

  • Kelly F

    April 4, 2012, 8:15 pm

    I’m 37, recently single, on long term disability for RA. Just started dating via Plenty of Fish 2 weeks ago, and I’ve been all over the place about what to say and not say. I find the disease frightens them a bit, and the fact that I’m not working seems to insinuate that I’m lazy. This is hard. I’m SSSSSSOOOOOOO glad you’re writing about this stuff!! Thank you!


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